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There is a woman in my yoga class I’ d like to ask out. Though she’s friendly to me, I worry that this could lead to awkwardness in class if she rejects me or if we date but things go poorly. I have a two-year relationship with this class — much longer than my fantasy relation- ship with her. What should I do? Grow a spine and go for it regardless of the even- tual consequences, or fish in a different pond? – Stuck
Spines are not to be grown promiscuously. In other words, there’s no one- size-fits-all answer to your
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question. Unlike 7-Elevens, people vary wildly. Individ- uals have individual levels of “risk tolerance” (or what risk intelligence specialist Dylan Evans calls “risk appetite”): their ability to bear potential losses, should their initiative go toiletward.
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The question to ask is, “Can I afford to ask out the hot lady from hot yoga?” Tempting as it is to overdra- matize, drill down to the actu- al worst-case scenarios.
There’s a remedy for this should asking her out go badly: preplanning to keep your cool — to act like the guy you were before you hit on her. In practice, how hard might that be?
For example, would get- ting a “Thanks, but I’m not ready to date” from the lady really trigger the giant zom- bie jellyfish apocalypse — or the rather mundane urge to
You’re probably inviting her to join you for “a coffee” after class, which few of us immediately recognize as code for “a midmorning orgy in my sex dungeon.”
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