Page 2 - Hawaii Island MidWeek - Jan 26, 2022

2 HAWAI‘I ISLAND MIDWEEK JANUARY 26, 2022
WSimple Fixes?
ith so many modern conveniences and amaz-
noticed the cowboy boots he of his own death.
ing technological feats appearing frequently,
“I’ll make sure you get them when I die,” he said softly.
Honest conversations, even about death, can strengthen relationships and provide clarity.
to provide inspiration for the work I do today and helped me clarify and claim my role with patients.
The Rev. Dr. Walt Weiss is a spiritual and bereavement care coordinator with Kaua‘i Hospice. He completed his doctorate of ministry at Cla- remont School of Theology and attends the Center for Spiritual Living Kaua‘i.
Chasing The Light is pro- duced by Lynne Johnson and Robin Stephens Rohr.
there are still some things we have trouble providing, and I preface this by saying others have surely talked, joked or written about some of these.
and told that I should never talk with patients about death; my role was solely to offer the hope of living. I disagreed at the time, as I still do to this day.
Like the fact that we can see zit marks on people’s faces with modern day technology from outer space or read the tattoo on their forearms from special gov- ernment cameras at malls and airports, but when some scofflaw robs a bank, the nightly news shows us a pic- ture that looks like a baby ultrasound or a shaky Pola- roid shot from 1968, with the perfunctory blurred guy in a hoodie and sunglasses.
He seemed glad to talk. Yes, he felt some sadness at leaving life so soon, he admitted, but he mostly felt gratitude for the many good things and people in his life. His thoughts as he faced death moved me greatly.
Peter died the next week. No, I never did get the boots. Instead, I received the bless- ing of my first honest con- versation with someone who was about to die. For this, I will always be grateful. It changed my life, continues
And while I can jam 5,000 songs onto my iPhone and carry on amazing video chats and get instantaneous location updates, I simply can’t get through that short distance known as the Pali Tunnel(s) without losing reception — cell phone, radio, you name it. It is 2022, so can we install the technology that will enable us to get through that challenging transition from town side to the windward side? I mean, if we can chat on a phone (please, no) at 30,000 feet, can’t we get through one one-tenth of a semi-enclosed mile without losing connection — hands-free, of course?
Later, as I reviewed patients with my attending physician, I related what had happened with Peter. To my surprise, I was severely reprimanded
Embracing A Patient Care Role
Honest listening is one of the best medicines we can offer the dying and Othe bereaved. — Jean Cameron
n my last visit with much time left to live. That Peter, as I was day was the first time he had drawing his blood, I ever mentioned the possibility
was wearing and comment- ed, “Great boots!”
It was 1987, toward the be- ginning of the AIDS epidem- ic. I was a physician assistant and study coordinator for an AIDS research unit in New York City. Peter had received the placebo in the study, which showed that AZT (az- idothymidine) extended sur- vival. By the time the study was unblinded and Peter re- ceived the treatment, it was too late. His disease had pro- gressed, and he did not have
Instinctively, I put down the blood specimens, looked into his eyes, placed my hand on his and asked how he felt about dying. Was there any- thing he felt he needed to do or say to prepare himself?
DIRECTOR OF CONTENT/ SUPPLEMENT PRODUCTS RON NAGASAWA
EXECUTIVE EDITOR
BILL MOSSMAN
MANAGING EDITOR
NICOLE MONTON
PRESIDENT & PUBLISHER
DENNIS FRANCIS
CHIEF REVENUE OFFICER
DAVE KENNEDY
REGIONAL SALES MANAGER
LANCE TAKAKI
hawaiiislandmidweek.com
To start/stop delivery or report a service issue, please call (808) 529-4700.
Telephone for Editorial: (808) 529-4700
Fax: (808) 585-6324
Telephone for Advertising & Administration: (808) 529-4700
Hawai‘i Island Midweek is published every Wednesday by Honolulu Star-Advertiser, 500 Ala Moana Blvd., Suite 7-500 Honolulu, HI 96813.
Fill in the blank cells using numbers 1 to 9. Each number can appear only once in each row, column, and 3x3 block. Use logic and process of elimination to solve the puzzle. The difficulty level ranges from Bronze (easiest) to Silver to Gold (hardest). Answers are on page 7
RATING: BRONZE
And speaking of the Pali Highway, we’ve heard of neighbors complaining that speed bumps are causing their houses to literally crack as some freewheelers go flying over the bumps, but now, growing potholes be- fore and after the speed bumps are causing motorists to slow down (or zigzag) even more. No problem, as we hear that Pali repairs will be done by year’s end. We just don’t know what year.
Kepler-452b is a cool (we think) exoplanet that we can apparently see, and it’s 8.2 quadrillion miles away. If we rode on our fastest current space probe there, it would take 26 million years to arrive on Kepler. Yet, while we rejoice seeing that dot well, I still can’t get a decent pair of eyeglasses that don’t smudge every single day.
These are the types of things that used to keep us up at night, or at least were weird wonders we pondered. But they were mere somewhat existential curiosities. Now, we obsess over mask microfibers, whether we’ll need a fourth vaccination this spring, and why is that guy coughing who just got on the elevator?! Ah, the good old days.
Think about it ...
with The Rev. Dr. Walt Weiss
john@thinkaboutithawaii.com