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SEPTEMBER 8, 2021
HAWAI‘I ISLAND MIDWEEK 9
Hawaii County Emergency Rental Assistance Program
“If your household income has been negatively impacted due to COVID19, apply for the Hawaii County Emergency Rental Assistance Program”
WHERE TO APPLY
Instructions. Check if your household earns less than the annual maximum income amount based on the number
of persons in your home. If yes, choose 1 nonprofit partner below to apply for a rent and utility assistance grant. You are encouraged to apply online for faster processing. Applications are available by phone and in-person for those without access to a computer or internet. IMPORTANT: You MUST be a renter to apply. Homeowners are NOT eligible for this program.
Maximum Income Threshold
1 Person
2 Persons
3 Persons
4 Persons
5 Persons
6 Persons
7 Persons
8 Persons
$47,950
$54,800
$61,650
$68,500
$74,000
$79,500
$84,950
$90,450
*Add $5,500 for each additional household member above 8 persons
Visit our website:
www.HawaiiCountyERAP.org
Hawaii First Federal Credit Union
1221 Kilauea Avenue, Suite 150, Hilo, HI 96720 www.hawaiifirstfcu.com
808.933.6600 empower@hawaiifirstfcu.com
HOPE Services Hawaii
357 Waianuenue Avenue, Hilo, HI 96720 www.hopeserviceshawaii.org
808.935.3050 ERAP@hopeserviceshawaii.org
Neighborhood Place of Puna
16-105 Opukahaia Street, Keaau, HI 96749 www.neighborhoodplace.org
808-965-5550 ERAP@neighborhoodplace.org
Habitat for Humanity Hawaii Island
73-4161 Uluwini Place, Kailua-Kona, HI 96740 www.habitathawaiiisland.org/
808.843.0071 rmap@habitathawaiiisland.org
Hawaii County Economic Opportunity Council
47 Rainbow Drive, Hilo, HI 96720 www.hceoc.net
808.932.2714 ERAP@hceoc.net
The Salvation Army
219 Ponahawai Street, Hilo, HI 97620 Hawaii.salvationarmy.org
808.935.1277 Hilo.ERAP@usw.salvationarmy.org
THE SCIENCE ADVICE GODDESS
Amy Alkon
Tales From The Decrypted
privacy crime scene cleanup when your audience is “every- one on the planet but three Na- mibian guys whose goats keep chewing through their cable.”
I recently met this guy, and we’ ve spent the entire past week together. Un- fortunately, he’s moving across the country — to- morrow. He asked whether I’ d be open to dating after he moved. I panicked and said no — I’ m really not looking for long-distance — but now that he’s leaving, I’m sad, and I’m worried I’ve made a mistake. Help! — Confused
Ireally appreciate my boyfriend, except for one thing: his constant- ly posting photos and videos that include me on his Face- book or Instagram. I’m a pretty private person, and I told him I don’t like having my life and our life together posted online. He grudgingly agreed to stop posting things about me, but he thinks I’m being unreasonable and “paranoid.” —Discreet
The scarcity principle is the psychological scheming be- hind ads like: “Today only!” and “Only one sofa at this price!” The looming scarcity (or “scarcity”) shuts down your Department of Reason- ing, basically turning you into a dog chasing a couch-shaped squirrel.
“Online privacy” is a quaint fiction. The reality: Any info about you, from your sexts to your Social Security number, is probably stealable by any basement nosepicker with an IQ over 125.
Recognizing how scarci- ty primes us to see through loss-prevention-colored glasses, do your best to set aside “Eek! He’s leaving!” and objectively assess what you two have. In short, is he (and how you are together) so extraordinary — so near-im- possible to find locally — that the thousands of dollars in travel costs and other trade- offs of long-distance might be worth it?
That said, it’s understand- able you’d try to retain what- ever shreds of yours you can — like by engaging in the “impression management” sociologist Erving Goffman observed we all do face to face: tailoring the “self” we present and revealing more or fewer “regions” of ourselves, depending on the particular audience.
Obstacles to love are like situational steroids. We long for what’s out of reach — and all the more romantic if reach- ing it takes crossing the desert on a camel or $553 with a lay- over in Boise.
Should you decide your feelings were more about the circumstances than the guy, well, you’re not alone. Imag- ine if Romeo and Juliet’s parents were all, “Hey, you crazy kids ... have fun at the movies!”
Your boyfriend might nev- er agree with your approach to online privacy. However, he might understand it — and gain a deeper understanding into who you are — if you evoke his empathy. Instead of simply telling him you “don’t like” to appear in social media posts, go into detail about your fears and discomfort at allow- ing an unselect audience a win- dow into your life.
The perception that some- thing is in short supply or soon will be makes it seem more valuable to us. Psychologist Robert Cialdini calls this the “scarcity principle” and ex- plains that the possibility we could lose access to something (or someone) jacks us into a motivational state: Go! Chase it! Don’t let it get away!
The play would’ve become a hate story for the ages — after things between them inevitably got kinda meh and Juliet walked in on Romeo in bed with her BFF and her la- dy-in-waiting.
There’s really no hope of
Instead of simply telling him you “don’t like” to appear in social media posts, go into detail about your fears and discomfort at allowing an unselect audience a window into your life.