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CHASING THE
LIGHT
with Susan Foard
Iwas sitting home feeling sorry for myself. I’ve been a counselor for 42 years and with all the tools in my counseling tool kit, I simply could not get out of this dark, dark hole. I had been betrayed and was deeply disappointed in someone, which created a deep wounding in my soul.
I consider myself to be an intelligent, sophisticated wom- an. In reflecting back, I realized that I had lost my compass.
about what happened.
• Make a commitment to
Today, remarkably, after all the forgiveness work, the per- son who so deeply betrayed me is now a dear friend. It’s not be- cause I have blinders on but I do know for sure that humans make mistakes and that for- giveness is a choice and the gift we choose to give ourselves.
Feeling despondent, I dragged myself to work the next day and a colleague in- vited me to a training on for- giveness given by the well-
The topic: Forgiveness is a teachable skill. I realized that I had the choice of responding to my feeling of devastation with skills of forgiveness or staying
wisdom in order to navigate this human experience. Un- cover your unenforceable expectations that you are de- manding of others. We have very little control of other people’s actions or behavior.
Susan Foard, M.Ed, LMHC, is a forgiveness group facilitator. Learn more by emailing sfoard51@gmail. com or calling 808-638-1669.
Chasing The Light is pro- duced by Robin Stephens Rohr and Lynne Johnson.
The Gift We Give Ourselves
“I promise if you keep searching for everything beautiful in this world, you will eventually become it.” — Tyler Kent White
known Stanford University educator and author Dr. Fred Luskin. I muttered under my breath, “Forget it, I know all of this.” But I was happy to spend a day out of the office and went reluctantly.
stuck in prolonged grief.
On that game-changing day there were many revelations and guidance given on to how to begin a state of forgiveness. • Know exactly how you feel
practice these disciplines and others, you will have access to resilience skills, which will serve you throughout your life.
The day I spent with Dr. Luskin along with 100 oth- er counselors who came to learn more about the philos- ophy and techniques was a game-changer.
yourself to feel better. Forgive- ness is for you and no one else. • Practice stress manage- ment: PERT (positive emotion
refocusing technique).
• Keep seeking skills and
• Once you acquire and
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